Good question. If I have to give an honest answer, I'd say that I get a little full of myself sometimes, and think I'm smarter than most of the people around me. So then I'll feel I don't have to impress anyone, maybe even that it's below my dignity to share my smartness with them - and I'll just play dumb. After all, it's only then that I can smugly and self-satisfiedly think to myself - "If they only knew". Thing is that after, my insecurities come back with a vengeance - they're not used to being suppressed for so long - and I replay the conversation in my head and think of how stupid I sounded and am mortified that they think I'm dumb. ...But do I really have to give an honest answer?
Genendy, I do the same thing. And I never really thought into why..but it's probably for the same reason. I don't think it backfires on me, because I get this smug smirk on my face..and then people don't know if I am making fun of them or not. Not a good trait, I admit.
I love this one... and I've certainly been there. You never really want the other person to fall for it. You want them to fall for it, then to appreciate you as a great tactician... right? :)
By the way, as a newcomer to your blog, if you don't mynd my sharing an initial thought...? Even though you're only writing for yourself and for writing's sake, have you ever thought about taking your short poems and putting them on postcards?
You might be able to sell them...
They remind me of this... http://www.ashleighbrilliant.com
ooh good one. i have a bit of a different twist- I like to play martyr/hero but- I hate it when it works.
but im with you on the dumb one as well.
i'd like to let you know again how wowed i am by ur writing without sounding like a broken record or a complete moron but i doubt that will happen so i just wont mention it.
Why must we play dumb? In business, in relationships why must some women like myself play dumb? (I'm talking about myself here genendy) But I often feel compelled to play down my intelligeince and use manipulation to get my way-- lead the men or women to what I want them to say instead of just saying it myself. Why? Of course when they say what I want to say and I realize what an idiot idea it was -- then I feel pretty stupid.
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Good question. If I have to give an honest answer, I'd say that I get a little full of myself sometimes, and think I'm smarter than most of the people around me. So then I'll feel I don't have to impress anyone, maybe even that it's below my dignity to share my smartness with them - and I'll just play dumb. After all, it's only then that I can smugly and self-satisfiedly think to myself - "If they only knew". Thing is that after, my insecurities come back with a vengeance - they're not used to being suppressed for so long - and I replay the conversation in my head and think of how stupid I sounded and am mortified that they think I'm dumb. ...But do I really have to give an honest answer?
I play dumb sometimes to avoid embarrassing or distasteful situations.
Genendy, I do the same thing. And I never really thought into why..but it's probably for the same reason.
I don't think it backfires on me, because I get this smug smirk on my face..and then people don't know if I am making fun of them or not.
Not a good trait, I admit.
Nuboy - Why I honestly feel that way? Well, isn't it obvious? I have a million complexes and it's all my parents' fault. ;)
Prag - If only everyone would use their powers for good like you.
TB - If not for your hatred of Manhattan, and your preference for dark chocolate, I'd think we were the same person. :)
SX2 - Of course. Playing dumb is a far cry from lying.
Cap'n - I'd hate to be the person on the receiving end of you dumb-playing. :)
The only problem is...
If you do it long enough...you might convince..even yourself
Yes David, that has happened as well.
I love this one... and I've certainly been there. You never really want the other person to fall for it. You want them to fall for it, then to appreciate you as a great tactician... right? :)
By the way, as a newcomer to your blog, if you don't mynd my sharing an initial thought...? Even though you're only writing for yourself and for writing's sake, have you ever thought about taking your short poems and putting them on postcards?
You might be able to sell them...
They remind me of this... http://www.ashleighbrilliant.com
Thanks, it's nice of you to suggest that. The problem is that if I had to come up with stuff, I know my mind would become a total blank.
awesome! ive felt that so many times.
Thanks anonymoo, it's good to know I'm not the only one. :)
ooh good one.
i have a bit of a different twist-
I like to play martyr/hero but-
I hate it when it works.
but im with you on the dumb one as well.
i'd like to let you know again how wowed i am by ur writing without sounding like a broken record or a complete moron but i doubt that will happen so i just wont mention it.
I like your twist on it!
And thanks, but don't worry about sounding like a broken record - compliments are always music to my ears! :)
Why must we play dumb? In business, in relationships why must some women like myself play dumb? (I'm talking about myself here genendy) But I often feel compelled to play down my intelligeince and use manipulation to get my way-- lead the men or women to what I want them to say instead of just saying it myself.
Why?
Of course when they say what I want to say and I realize what an idiot idea it was -- then I feel pretty stupid.
It's a good question Bonnie. Maybe we should as Pink. :)
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